Exploring The Wilderness inside ourselves

This street name always makes me chuckle, but as I parked my car here today it struck a chord with me... It’s the 5th anniversary of my wedding day and parking in The Wilderness made me think back to my separation and how I cast myself into my own wilderness by choosing a different life. How letting go and allowing myself time there - and acquainting myself with the wild exploration of my own existence - I really began to know myself.

Divorce is an interesting proposition. For some it still remains a dirty word; for some it’s viewed as an easy way out. For me it was a chance to start again, a chance to really look at what I wanted and to build myself up from bones. I was fortunate that the separation was amicable and we had no children, but even so it’s an emotionally charged time for anyone... the un-entwining of two people who have been linked in such a way is always going to be a huge shift. But there is life after divorce! And sometimes it really is OK to say “We tried! And it didn’t work!” And let go and allow each other to find happiness elsewhere. Because life is short - and life is also long! A long time to be unhappy... By denying truths and trying to avoid pain we so often end up inflicting pain on a daily basis to ourselves and to others. By taking action in our own lives we get to experience the longer term gain of discovery - exploration of the wilderness inside each of us, and there’s unimaginable beauty to that. 

23 March 2018